Dayenu! In the News

Hadassah Magazine (January 2008)
Security Over Secrecy by Rahel Musleah

Women's eNews (February 8, 2008)
In NYC, Church Joins State In Preventing Abuse by Dominique Soguel

New York Daily News (February 24, 2008)
Rabbis Turn Focus on Domestic Abuse by Ari Goldman

The New York Board of Rabbis is committed to ending the silence around domestic violence and child sexual abuse through it's DAYENU! Initiative. 

In the United States, an estimated 1.3 million women are victims of physical assault by an intimate partner each year and there are 3.3 million children who witness this violence annually. 

If you are sitting and thinking that this is not happening in your congregation, think again. It is a statistical certainty that domestic abuse exists in every congregation – in your congregation. 

Without regard to religious or financial indicators:

1 in every 4 women will experience domestic violence in her lifetime (National Institute
      of Justice and the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention).

Every nine seconds, a woman is battered in the United States.

These women are our mothers, our daughters, our sisters, grandmothers, aunts, cousins, friends and congregants.

Since 2005, DAYENU! Enough Silence (formerly known as Sh’ma Kolenu) has been working to end the culture of silence that has long veiled this painful reality.  Seldom does our director speak in any congregation or community, when someone does not share his or her story of fear, shame and hope; their story of abuse. 

If no one is confiding in you, it is your obligation as a community leader to ask the question:
"Am I doing enough?” 

As faith leaders we work with and advise members of our community on religious, spiritual, communal and family issues.  When we fail to name abuse as an issue, our silence allows the perpetuation of the stereotypical myth that this issue does not exist in religious life.  We are in a unique position to effect change.  Through one-on-one consultations and group training Dayenu’s goal is to better assist our members’ ability to encourage discussion, provide support and safety to those you serve. 

From the Worship Place to the Work Place

Ending the silence surrounding domestic violence is no longer only a moral imperative.  The States of New York, New Jersey and Connecticut have adopted Domestic Violence and the Workplace legislation for state agencies.  In addition, the Federal Occupational Safety and Health Administration (“OSHA”) requires employers to protect employees who have given notice that domestic violence exists. Now, it is not only your moral imperative, it is now a legal imperative.

Without appropriate policies in place, we also expose ourselves and our places of worship to legal liabilities. For the first time, congregations and institution can become partners with Dayenu! Enough Silence, in order for you and your community will benefit from our experience, knowledge, resources and training.